Feminist Confesses: “I’m All For Feminism, But It’s Making It Hard to Date”
This was published by Bolde. I can’t find it on the site; maybe they’ve deleted it. There is a Jennifer Lee that writes there, so that checks out.
Or maybe it’s a spoof meant to look like it was published on Bolde. I dunno.
Let’s assume it’s real, provisionally.
Watch as very obvious dimes drop one by one.
I consider myself a feminist, but I can’t lie–I’m starting to notice its effects on my dating life. This doesn’t change my belief in equality, I just hope that men and women can eventually learn to date in harmony because it’s pretty messy right now.1. I’M HYPER AWARE OF EVERY SEXIST THING A GUY DOES NOW.
It doesn’t take much for me to overanalyze a guy’s intentions nowadays. I used to see a guy opening a door for me as nice and polite, but lately, gestures like this have been making me angry. I know the guys offering these acts of chivalry have no intention to make me feel small or lesser than, but now that my eyes have been opened to feminist theory, it’s all I’m able to think about.
Please save me from my cult.
2. GUYS ARE STARTED TO THINK WE DON’T NEED THEM ANYMORE.
Even though the feminist movement is pretty much the best thing to happen to this world since sliced bread, it’s taking its toll in the dating scene. The thing is, I’m starting to get a bit of a stand-offish vibe from guys, like they’re afraid to make a move, and I think it’s because they think that we don’t need them anymore….
You don’t say. I wonder where men would get the idea that women who say “a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle” would not need men anymore.
3. ONE LITTLE ANTI-FEMINIST COMMENT CAN COMPLETELY TURN ME OFF.When I’m out with a guy and he says one thing that’s even REMOTELY offensive towards women, I find it really hard to recover. I instantly write guys off if they aren’t “woke” to the current social mindset towards gender politics and can’t let it go. Let’s just say I’ve gone on A LOT of first dates that never go anywhere.
Cults train cultists to be alienated from normal non-cult society, so that they have no refuge, except the cult.
It’s what keeps them coming back.
4. IT’S LIKE GUYS ARE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS AROUND US.Guys are feeling the heat and we can all tell. They’re afraid to compliment us or relate to us in the way they were always taught to and trust me, this is a good thing. However, women still like to be pursued (at least I do) and it’s unfortunate that by finally standing up for our rights and demanding respect, we’re totally scaring men away. It’s so messed up and a total shame.
It’s almost as if she’s realized she’s been brainwashed.
5. I’VE BEEN BRAINWASHED TO ASSUME THE WORST IN MEN.
Oh, there you go.
All it takes is one quick scroll down my newsfeed and I have enough feminist rants to last me several winters. I think I’ve almost trained my brain to assume ALL men are here to try to put me down and dominate me when that’s far from the truth. I’ve made it kind of an automatic reflex at this point, though.
It’s almost as if feminists have trained themselves to be hostile, paranoid man-haters.
…8. IT’S MADE US MORE SEPARATE FROM EACH OTHER THAN EVER BEFORE.
Men and women ALREADY have so much trouble trying to understand each other, but feminism has turned our society into a bit of a battle of the sexes. I’m not on their side or anything, I’m just pointing out that we’re currently in a sort of “us against them” mentality and it’s gonna take a while until it all smooths out.
A “sort of us versus them mentality.”
Just sort of!, ..
10. I SWEAR GUYS ARE APPROACHING ME LESS.
Is it just me or are guys doing a lot more looking around than actually approaching? Times are a little weird right now and I guess guys are afraid that the way they approach women might offend us or give us the wrong impression.
Nah, you’re fine. Keep on doing what you’re doing.
This is so perfect that I’m afraid it might be a troll but YOLO, it’s still all true.
Addendum: Here is the Bolde link to the article: it’s real! [CBD]
From Ace of Spades, who for some reason leaves out this which is in some ways the best bit:
7. THE DEBATE ON WHO SHOULD PAY HAS NEVER BEEN MORE ALIVE.
I’m on the side that believes whoever does the asking should also do the paying. If I ask a guy out on a date, I would expect to pay, absolutely. If a guy asks me, I would expect that he shells out the money for the evening. It’s just the way it should be. However, due to the recent boost in feminism, a guy paying the bill could be seen as anti-feminist and no guy wants to be considered a misogynist in this day and age. The song and dance of who’s gonna pay has never been more awkward and it’s making dating that much more difficult to maneuver.
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