One characteristic of modern feminism

This is from Glenn Reynolds at Instapundit:

One characteristic of modern feminism is the strong belief that men are not entitled to judge women for anything, coupled with the equally strong belief that women are entitled to judge men for everything.

It comes with this story which ends with these views about the Mr Nice Guy excuse for not finding love:

Why do these guys turn to the Nice Guy™ narrative to explain their predicament? Partly because they’re been weaned on Hollywood love stories where the geeky best friend gets the girl just before the credits roll, and on tough love self-help that urges men to act like douches if they want to get laid.

Partly because, if you’re someone who hasn’t had much luck in the romance department, it’s less heart-breaking to fall back on the idea that you’re ‘too nice’ (or smart, or intimidating) than that you’re too insecure, or that people just don’t find you sexy. And partly, yes, because on some level they’ve bought into the idea that men’s ‘niceness’ can be exchanged for sexual access.

But if it’s wrong to assume that if you treat someone nicely enough, they’ll eventually fall in love with you, surely it’s also wrong to conclude that if someone is a serial sexual reject, it must be because they’re a jerk.

Life is more complicated than that. Sometimes, the person you fall for won’t fall for you in return, no matter how nice you are to them. Sometimes their reasons will be superficial, other times they’ll be deep seated: either way, you will have to accept it. And sometimes, people who make all the same missteps as the Nice Guys of OkCupid will find love nonetheless, however questionable their ‘niceness.’

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